WHY ARE WE STILL DRINKING IT ?

“AJ kuch Tufani karte hain “ said a 10 year old boy when I asked him, why you drink soft drinks. I know, it’s not good for my health but I drink it as it is cool to drink them.I feel like doing something toofani just thinking of it now. Who told you this, I asked. The advertisement & the Salman Khan. You know didi, I am big fan of him. My God, I just love him. 

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“I want a Yo-Yo life and be cool like Ranveer” said a second year MBA Student. What Ranveer and soft drink has to do each other, I asked. Oh, don’t you know Ranveer is the brand ambassador of Pepsi now. I think it is cool to drink it. I love Ranveer and is a big fan of him. If he is endorsing the brand, then there must be something good about it. 

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I drink it whenever, I get it for free , Said a company employee.  I know it’s not good for my health but free ki tho banti hain ( I have to drink the free one). Free ? Where can you get it for free, I asked ? Oh.. “Cokenawazi “. Have you not seen the new ad of Deepika Padukone. She has set a new trend. We now offer coke to our guest. Whenever I am at my friends house or at a party, drink ample of it. This is the culture these days Pratibha. You must watch that Ad. It’s a good one. 

Ahha…We all fall into the same trap. No one mentioned about the taste, the ingredients, the price, the ill effect of it on our health but they remembered the stars behind them. One of my friend said it rightly, they don’t sell the products but sell the dream behind it. I wonder, how much they consume it themselves ?

But more than what they do, I feel pity about ourselves. Why we don’t think ? Why  we just follow them blindly ? I mean why we fall into this trap ? We know ,it is not good for our health. We know it is just just sugar. We know it contains carcinogenic contents. We know it is not good for our health  and many more things.  But we still just drink it ? Why ?

Let’s find out their effect on our health 

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           Source : This is what happens to your body when you drink Coca Cola

“When the Center for Environmental Health released test results showing that Pepsi intentionally covered up the presence of high levels of 4-Mel in its popular soft drinks in 2013, the company denied both the presence of this chemical in its beverages and the fact that it was dangerous. 4-Mel, which is short for 4-Methylimidazole, is a compound that is formed in the manufacturing of caramel coloring, and is a known carcinogen.

Source : Pepsi admits its soda contains cancer-causing ingredients

There are many articles, we can find online who gives us the real picture. Sharing few with you. If you really want to study the topic in detail, can read them :

9 Disturbing Side Effects Of Soda

6 Harmful Effects of Drinking Coca Cola (Coke) or Pepsi

8 Reasons You Should Stop Drinking Pepsi

http://www.thehealthyarchive.info/2014/04/are-pepsi-coke-more-dangerous-then-you.html

I know , we all are going to forget this post tomorrow and will continue drinking the same. It’s an individual choice and I totally respect it. Somehow, it is not even our fault. Soft drinks are everywhere these days and  become a way of life. It has become a habit for most of us. There is a deep psychology involved if we go out to study the advertisement and how it influence our mind. Let’s not go into to as of now.

I know one thing for sure that, we cannot stop them for producing and advertizing it. They will keep coming with more offers, more attractive branding and more creative ads. Let us be aware. Let us please stop and think for a second, before buying the same. Let us make health our priority than the taste. 

Let’s just not  fall into the trap. Life is precious and let’s invest in our health. 

Take care 🙂 

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MARCH = FOOD

Happy March Everyone 🙂 

Food is an integral part of our life. We have been hearing from generations that, we are what we eat”.

I believe, we need to re-think on this.

We human have a tendency to blame others for everything we do or not do. Here , we are doing the same with the food.  We take the decision of what to eat or not eat, then how come our food be responsible for our thoughts and well being. 

I believe, it should be ” We eat, what we are “.

In the month of March, I am going to write about food. An article a day. Looking forward to sharing my views with you. 

Love, 

Pratibha 

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HAPPINESS :)

“Happiness is a journey. Not a destination.”- Ben Sweetland 

So true.. At times in life, when things doesn’t turn out the way we want them to be, we become sad. We wait for a day to be happy and focus all our energy there.  We think, agar ye ho jayega ( if this will happen) ,then I will be happy. Agar wo mil jayega (If I will get that),then I will be happy and the list just goes on. 

Atleast, it was the case with me 🙂 I used to postpone my happiness until I realized that happiness lies in small things we do & experience everyday. We need not wait for this to happen. It’s rather a choice we make every moment of our life. 

Sharing you with some happiness that we had received in last week 🙂 Thank you for sharing it with us 🙂 

Happiness is –

Happiness is not something that u can buy or sale it is a wonderful feeling which u can experience in your surrounding in day to day life.

Seeing my loved ones happy..

Beautiful life ….alive

When some one smiles due to me

when someone s giving me surprise…unexpectedly

Food. Travelling .Money . Winning. Dancing .Cheese

When I do something and people gives me a valuable comment gives me a lots of happiness

Finding the missing part of life

my hubby and kids smile

When my mother and father rub my head affectionately

Always positive

My mom & dad smile

When I am m with my family

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Peace of mind

To Spend quality time with my kids

Reading a book, alone in my room

Meri family ki khusi mein khushi hain.Waise bhi ajkal mein bahut khush reh raha hun, kyunki mein family ka pura khayal bahut acche se rakh raha hun.

Auto chala raha hun… Wo khushi hain.”Aur kya.. Apna Kamana Apna Khana”

Khushi aj ke time mein viswas aur jo pyar ki bhasha bole na…wahi khushi hain.. Acchai aur pyar hi khushi hain.4 logo ke samne pyar se bol le.. pyar se ap logo ko jawab dede wohi khushi hain

Khushi tho sab chiz mein hain..Yeh tho sabki apni apni soch hoti hain.Zindagi mein dukh sukh sab cahla aa raha hain. Mano tho khushi hain, na tho dukhi hain

“Dukh ko sukh se katle wahi zindagi hain, wahi jeevan hain”

 

Very true.. It’s all depends on our thoughts. Happiness lies everywhere and we just need to be aware to be feel it. Let’s be happy and live each moment as it comes to us . 

Have a happy February ahead 🙂 

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WHAT IS THE SOLUTION….

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place.”- George Bernard Shaw

Communication can solve most of the problems in our life.It is important to have an open convesration as a family and speak our heart out.In trying to figure out the solution for Dipti , I had received many valuable advice from friends and family. Sharing with you all today few of them.

“Our family is much more important to us than whatever is stressing us out. So in this particular case all three of them should sit together and take a pledge to never take that stress out on one another. All three seem to be individually good but as a family they don’t seem to be coping up with the stress. So talking is the only solution I can think of.— Prashant Agarwal.

“She needs to chat with her father to convey that she is very disappointed with his behaviour”. -Jayendra Shah

“In my opinion if she feels strongly about leaving she should leave. She can help her mother only if she is in perfect tune with herself. Running away is not always a bad option. At times not doing anything is a big problem.Shabbar Hussain

“There is no straight single solution for such problem. It has many dimensions and view point to see.While reading article, I got reminded of something great persons have said. I wrote Master as many people have shared it and most prominent one whom I can recall are Sri Ram Sharma Acharya and Mahatma Gandhi. Don’t hate the person but hate those vices’. Something which makes them do -violence, anger, greed. Never condemn a person but condemn those vices present in man.-Vaibhav Pandya

Forgiveness opens doors to the Love; Love opens door to the Forgiveness — One of the saying which brings us closer to Real True Love which is ever existential.”-Vaibhav Pandya

“Leaving home or Living at home, both has its positive and negative effect. But before acting an open dialogue in whichever forms need to be done with family. At least an attempt for it and try best to listen deeply to understand rather making other understand our point.”-Vaibhav Pandya

“So instead of taking call of leaving home for life, say you can leave it for a month or two… calmly see the picture… human nature is like a tail of dog, very had to make it straight… so let time take care of change in nature is over a night that’s not going to come.”- Vaibhav Pandya

Sharing personal angst, hearing similar stories and how people are dealing with them gives a feeling of connectedness- I am not the only one going through the issues.”Akram

There is always counselling and professional help available. If it gets to that stage, talking to someone who deals with issues can definitely help– Akram.

“Can speak with the father and convince him to accompany her to a psychologist. Family counselling can help since beating is not a sign of a healthy mind.“- Maitreeya Banerjee

“There may not be an ideal solution to the problem. The person going through the pain has to think about the calling of her/his heart and spirit and follow that. They have to focus on the journey within. They have to listen to their own soul. They have to trust what they feel and go with it. It is better to fail after listening to one’s own calling than to fail after listening to someone else’s calling. The solution is to unconditionally trust oneself and live that life”-Hashmukh Sapnawala

It is so true that there is no universal solution to this problem. We all have our journey and need to find our own solutions within.Thanks to everyone for sharing their views. I hope, together Dipti & I can find our ways ahead now.

Thank You !!!

WHAT COULD BE THE SOLUTION ?

“DAD. A son’s first hero. A daughter’s first love”- Anonymous 

“MOTHER. You will be her first role model, Her first best friend, Her first love”-Vicki Reece 

Is it true for everyone ? I received a call from one of good friend yesterday. Pratibha, please  come to my house immediately, Dipti (name changed) said sobbingly. Is everything alright ?  Please don’t ask any question, just come fast. Ok, I will be there in an hour. 

A red suitcase was lying on her bed, with clothes all around it.  A pile of  her books,makeups and family photographs placed near the suitcase. I looked around to find her sitting near the window. Her eyes were red with tears flowing down her cheeks. 

I walked slowly towards her and asked , what happened ? are you going anywhere ? Yes, I am leaving the house tonight, Dipti replied. Leaving as in ? I am leaving the house forever. I cannot stay here anymore.

Lost & depressed, she continued. You know Pratibha everyone in my family is blaming me for leaving and running away from the situation. They want me to be strong and face the situation boldly. Even, I am guilty of leaving my mother at this stage, but I just cannot help it. If, I will stay even for a single day, I will go mad. You know, at times I feel, my mind has stopped working.

 

But  why ? What has happened ? You have this perfect family, a booming career and everything else a girl can ask for. Then why ? 

Perfect Family !!! What we see is not the truth always. No body knows, what’s going on behind the closed doors.

Please stop playing with  your words and tell me what’s wrong ? She burst into tears. Pratibha, this has been my secret but I have seen my dad beating my mother many a times in last 9 years. I am tired of it all now and cannot take it anymore. A part of me dying a bit everyday being here witnessing it. 

I understand you Dipti, I told to break the silence between us. We will figure something out, leaving home is not the solution of the problem. 

She got furious, you understand ?? No you don’t understand. I love her, she is my mother but living with her is harder than one can think it is. You don’t know how to react to her constant complaints and nagging. You don’t know how to handle her panic attacks. You don’t have the patience to listen how life has been so unfair to her all the time. You love her but don’t want to spend time with her. You both always end up getting arguments. It’s hard for you to respect her for her weaknesses. You can’t share your thoughts and feelings with her as she is already full of her complain. You miss her when she is gone but the moments she comes, you start to feel irritated and helpless. You try best to help and protect her but at the end it all seems useless.

You are saying to me you understand, how it is to live with my father under the same room knowing all this ?  It’s like,You love and hate him at the same time. Once, he is your role model and a perfect dad, who has given you the wings to fly high and conquer your dreams. At another moment, he is a monster, who beats your mother ruthlessly.You appreciate him as your father. But when you portray him as your mother’s husband, you don’t even feel like calling him you dad. You hate yourself for loving him. You feel like, you are supporting a criminal in his deed. No one can understand, how helpless I feel at times. 

I totally understand you but there should be something that you could do to change it. 

There is nothing , I could do to change it Pratibha.  Instead, In trying to help them and figure out their life, I have lost the direction of mine. What do you think, is it the story of my life only ? There must be thousand of children out there facing the same problem everyday. 

The problem with our society is that we don’t share such things. I feel, our life has become so fake. We fake being a happy family, a happy individual and the list goes on. I don’t understand why we judge and label a person, when one shares their depression, anger , frustration, family problems  & weaknesses.  We all are vulnerable Pratibha and do u believe, we have created a space out there to share our vulnerability ? 

Ok, you are telling  me to find the solution right. Now you tell me what is the solution ? What should I do now ? Should I stay back or leave ? 

I was numb. After few minutes, I told Dipti, I don’t have an answer right now. Let’s meet tomorrow and we will talk. For the time being, please stay back for my sake. You know, there are times in life when you just need to hold yourself up and carry on. Trust me, everything will be fine. I want you to remember that, I love you a lot and will always be there with you holding your back. 

We had our dinner together. I cleaned her bed. Tears flew down my cheeks as our eyes met for the last time. I placed a goodbye kiss on her forehead,while turning off the light of her room with a promise to see her again tomorrow. 

Walking back, I was thinking of her questions ? What can she do ? What could be the solution ? 

What do u think is the solution ? 

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