MY BROTHER – MY HERO
Last week, in a deep discussion with my brother I told him, ” Bhaiya , I want to do something extraordinary in life. People question me everyday, what have you achieved in your life ? What are you doing now Pratibha ? After a Masters degree in USA, you are at home taking care of your grandparents & family, that too in a small town Jharsuguda ? They question my ability hearing this & think I am at home because I have nothing else to do. I want to show the world what I am ? Baba will be fine in few days, but I can’t wait.. The world is moving forward & I don’t want to be left behind. Let me go to Delhi & work on this start-up idea I have. I can make wonders with it.I want to proof my competence to the world, so they will stop questioning my ability. I have been tried of answering the question… what have your achieved Pratibha ? What’s your professional profile ?
With a voice filled with emotion & pain, I shared Bhaiya, somehow they don’t see achievement in taking care of family. They don’t appreciate living a normal life & leaving behind career goals for collective family goals. All they want is result. People who can go against all odds & achieve extraordinary success are their heroes. Bhaiya let me go and in ten years , you will be proud of me. I promise you that.
He was listening everything very quietly & first thing he said was….we are still very proud of you 🙂 Why wait 10 years for that & started laughing. Then in a serious tone he said, What is this “I”? Do you think your success & achievement is only yours ? What about the family who feed you with love & food to get going ? What about the people, who support you in your life & help make you successful. Why you guys forget them ?
What if everyone start thinking like you, what will happen ? Ok, suppose, I start thinking like you & be all focused on my career & goals, then who will take care of this family? Who will take care of our grandparents ? Who will be here to listen to your story ? Why you go after what people have to say about success . “They forget, they are a hero because many of them in their family sacrificed to be one.” A family will fall apart, if everyone will start thinking about their personal goals & achievements. The problem ,he explained is :
“ Jis sidhi se chad kar hum upar chadhte hain aur hero bantane hain, hero banate hi us sidhi ko bhul jatein hain. Phir hum usi se phutche hain: batao tumne life mein kya kiya, tum tho failure ho. Dekho mujhe, mein kitna successful hun, log mujhe jante hain, respect karte hain. Tum kya ho ? Aur us sidhi ke pas koi answer nahi hota “
His words made me rethink on our societal success norms & I realized the truth of it.
As a society, we give awards to the successful people for achieving great heights in their career & life. We portray them as our hero & motivate the young generation to follow their foot steps. We appreciate the person, who has left behind everything back home in search of their passion & life purpose. The hard work pays off after years and when one gets success,we boast them with awards & tag them as a successful people of our society. We write articles on their life stories & their hardships to motivate young generations to be successful in life.
But, after the conversation, the question kept coming , are they solely responsible for their success ? Are they the only hero to be celebrated for their success? Who are our real heroes ? Why don’t we celebrate the life of everyday hero around ? What is success & how will one define it ? Who is successful & who is not ? Who is your hero ? I leave the question to you to answer.